Have things changed for me?

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Edit: Thank you for all your nice words =) I didn't expect this outpour of positive energy and it is greatly appreciated!

Hi @ll.
I did take a small break from SG the last months. It started in December, when my new rig was built (more on that further down below) and, honestly, I think it had something to do with Lily stopping the bundle threads.
I am super happy that Robby picked up the bundle threads and although to me, it still feels like something is missing, they are done reliably, concise and quite soon after a bundle releases. They are as helpful for my purchasing decisions as the "old" threads, so I really haven't lost anything in information and I am thankful to Robby that he picked up the work.

For me, personally, I think I lost my touch on SG a little. 2025 will mark me being on this website for 12 years, which is a very long time. Many people I knew have left and I feel a little bit detached from the new crowd.
But, admittedly, this might just be a phase. The last few months have been kinda rough.

My new PC was built at the beginning of December and I was just waiting for the new NVIDIA 5000-Series to come out in January of this year to finish it. Had I known what a debacle this series turned out to be, I would have stayed with my old rig. The idea was to finally make the jump from Full-HD-Gaming to 4K-UHD-Gaming. Or, in other words, to upgrade my old PC from February 2015 to a new one from January 2025.
Well, too many problems later, I am now sitting here with a PC that should have been my dream PC and I'm still hoping that Nvidia fixes the mess their drivers are, still trying to set up the new display so that I am satisfied, still have to get the temperatures lower, still lacking performance, have to live with missing PhysX in old games and still have many questions about all the new stull (DLSS, DLAA, DLeverything) and how the optimal settings per game should be.

What is more important is: One of my best friends took his own life at the end of January. We buried his younger brother in 2021, also after he took his own life. Both brothers developed mental illnesses after their mother suddenly died of cancer some 30 years ago.
Well, since the father of those two brothers already suffers from dementia and had to go through a severe heart surgery just mere days before his second son died, we - as friends - organized the funeral. That wasn't easy, since it took several weeks for the police to rule out any wrongdoings by a third party.
Well, we buried my very good friend mid February. One week later the father refused any more treatment in the hospital and nearly exactly two weeks after the funeral of his oldest son, the father died, too. And once again, we organized the funeral, since there was no family left.
I think my mind and body is still in denial but slowly but surely reality is setting in and it is hard. I miss him. But hey, the family now is back together, just in another place.

Well, thank you for reading my drivel. I will try to slowly but surely try to wiggle my way back in and see how it feels like.
So...
Hello there! I hope life treats you good and you are in a good place. If not, remember, yours is not a dead end street, there is always the chance to turn things around and if you truly feel lost, go and get help.

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JMM72

Those had to be real bad ordeals. I hope you recover soon and well, but those scar tissues will remain there, I know.
I'm going through my own sunk-as-Titanic and everything irritates me and go full Hulk phase. Since December 2023 (15 months), and things, well, you know, on the seventh day, God said "Murphy, now it's your turn".
I still use humour as pressure valve, but often it goes as dark sarcasm which I think most people won't interpret as "slightly bitter comedy".
Welcome back, Amano.

1 month ago